The adrenaline of preparing for a big event is familiar to all of us. You’re juggling details, managing expectations, and doing everything you can to ensure success. But what happens when you’re so focused on others that you overlook the most important person—you?
I’ve been there—completely consumed by the needs of others, only to realize I’d left myself behind. That moment hit me like a ton of bricks on a flight to my first major conference as the new owner of a company.
There was a lot at stake: Would the members like me? Could I live up to the past while introducing my new ideas? I thought I had prepared for everything—until I realized, mid-flight, that I hadn’t packed a single outfit for the event.
Not one dress, not one look for the stage, nothing. I panicked. How could I have overlooked something so basic? When I landed, I rushed into an airport shop and bought a pair of black Spanx pants. Functional, yes. But later, I realized the oversight was more than logistical.
I wasn’t just neglecting my wardrobe—I was neglecting me.
The Real Message Behind Forgetting Ourselves
When you’re constantly pouring into others, it’s easy to lose sight of your own needs. As a leader, caregiver, or visionary, you want to be everything to everyone. But here’s the hard truth: you can’t give your best to others if you’re giving nothing to yourself.
It’s not about vanity or selfishness. It’s about showing up as the best version of yourself so you can be fully present for the people and responsibilities that matter most.
Showing Up for Yourself Is Showing Up for Others
That moment on the plane taught me that my endless giving was a distraction. I wasn’t investing in myself, and it showed. But it also sparked a turning point. Fast-forward five years, and I now own a boutique dedicated to helping women avoid that same experience. I want them to feel confident, prepared, and celebrated—not just for others, but for themselves.
Your Turn
So, let me ask you—when was the last time you truly showed up for yourself? Not just for work, your family, or your community, but for you.
The most powerful thing you can give to others is the best version of yourself. What would it look like if you prioritized you—and showed up fully for all the greatness and beauty your life has to offer? Imagine the impact you could have, not just on yourself, but on everyone around you.